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I have been thinking about how hard it is to be a single when you have been part of a couple. If you had always been single that would be your identity but when you are suddenly single that is where the struggle begins. It is like you had your identity stolen but there is no magic website that you can go to and have it recovered for you. Yesterday I was talking about perception and this is an example of that. You see yourself now as only half of what you once were and other people see you that way too so now are you of less value or does it only feel that way?